Confidence

There something I’d like to share that I’ve been thinking about in light of some recent events.

Why do we learn self-defense? Why do we carry guns and/or knives, and/or stunguns, etc.? Why do we train?

For confidence.

When a person has the capability to defend themselves from personal harm, they exudefallon a confidence that criminals can sense. It’s the I-am-not-a-victim mentality. It is not guaranteed to keep you safe, but it is a BIG deterrent. They have actually filmed pedestrians on a street and showed it to interned criminals and had them select potential victims. Most selected the same people. People that were not aware of their surroundings, looked lost in their own world, looked weak and incapable, unsure.
fallon2However there was one very nice looking woman that was shown to each inmate and yet they never chose her. When asked why, the criminals  simply said that there was something about her, they wouldn’t want to tangle with her. She looked confident and alert. In real life she was a part time security guard and always carried concealed. You couldn’t tell, but she had that sharp, alert confidence about her and the inmates could sense it.

 

 

So all this to say, even if you aren’t to the point of carrying a firearm yet, walk with confidence, if you have trouble with this, you should start training until you get to the point where you are confident, whether it is with a weapon, or using your own body. Be alert. Walk purposefully. Don’t be afraid to make eye contact with shady people. Be observant. confident.png

Aka, don’t go out without it. (I know, I know, we don’t always wear makeup when we go out, but just go with it. It sounds good. Lol)

A young girl got kidnapped very close to the city where I live, just a few weeks ago, and they still haven’t found her, as of yet. As I ponder this incident and many others that seem to be occurring more and more frequently, I have found myself seeking for a common thread, a clue to the victims, and more importantly, how to help potential victims before it’s too late. I don’t want to offend anyone, but these victims look like victims. You can see uncertainty in their eyes, in the way they carry themselves. I want to help inspire confidence in these women and girls. You are beautiful. You are important. You have a right to happiness and confidence. So throw your chest out and stride with purpose. You have a right to be alive, unharmed and walk down the street without fear of assault.

 

Oh, and just one last thing, SmartCross3unchain yourself from your phone. Please. I’m sure that text can wait till you get somewhere safe.
On the street is not the place to check Facebook and text. Phones lead to so many accidents, so much sorrow. It’s better to wait the extra 1-10 min than to risk a tragedy.

 

 

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One Lovely Blog Award

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Guess what, y’all!?  Down Home Blog nominated us for the One Lovely Blog Award! Isn’t that just the sweetest thing? She’s one of our most loyal followers and has a really neat blog. Definitely go check her out!

So here are the rules:

-Thank the person who nominated you and leave a link to their blog {Thank you , Grace!!!}
-Post about the award {obviously you’re reading it}
-Share seven facts about yourself { Below}
-Nominate at most 15 people {Also below}
-Let your nominees know that they’ve been nominated {Will do!}

 

Seven facts about me…

  1. I am a Christian. I attend a Reformed Baptist church and my life is dedicated to God’s will, whatever that may be. He is sovereign and I am His daughter. 🙂
  2. I don’t get to shoot every day. I don’t get to shoot every week, sometimes I go months without a visit to the range. Guess what?!
  3. I’m normal. I’m not a super amazing, BA, gun savvy, gun expert. I’m just me. I see a need in my own life, and in others and I’m determined to make a difference. One small step at a time.
  4. I’m French. I’m also Swedish, Polish, Scottish and American Indian. An all-American mutt. Lol
  5. I’m 18! You don’t have to let age get in the way of your dreams. 😉
  6. Besides being the ‘Weaponed Woman’ and a blogger, I also work construction with my dad, I’m an event and wedding planner, and I also love to cook. 🙂
  7. I am a historical reenactor, particularly focusing on Civil War and WWII. I actually help to plan and host a big WWII reenactment in my town called Remembering WWII: Living History, Education and Honor.

 

My nominations:

Fire Breathing Christian

Down Home

Boyer Sisters

Check them out! 🙂

Self Defense-Without a Gun Part 2

Sorry that it’s taking me a while to get these out, folks. Life seems to sneak up and spin the clock when your back is turned sometimes. Hahaha

Okay, so we just sort of brushed the surface of ‘non-lethal’ weapons and the basic self defense mindset in Part 1 of this series. In this post we’ll get a little more in depth about preparedness and prevention.

Like we said last week, mindset is one of the foundational tenets on which self defense is built.train-your-brain It is essential to the success of all the training you will do, the disciplines you will instill, and the outcome of an attack, should one occur.

 

 

 

 

What are the chances of you getting attacked? Well, as a police officer friend of mine put it, it really depends on who you are, your personality type, where you live and what you do for a job. The chances are slim you’ll get attacked, but then again, so are the chances that your house will burn down, but we still buy fire insurance. *epic mic drop*

Sooo how to prepare? use-your-mindFirst, let’s look at some basic ways to avoid putting yourself in danger in the first place. Another quote from my police friend is “if you are looking for trouble, you’re going to find it.” And an excellent quote from an instructor, “People get hurt when they go stupid places, hang out with stupid people and/or do stupid things.” Basically, if at all possible, use your brain and stay away from danger. It may mean the difference between life and death.

 

 

 

 

 

Here is a practical list of things to remember/avoid for your normal, day to day life. This was written by a cop, but I’m not sure what his name is, or I’d give him credit directly -he certainly deserves it.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do :The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2. Something learned from a tour guide: If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse,
DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you… Chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.. The driver won’t see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON’T DO THIS! woman-in-carThe predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR , LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your air bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
A.) Be aware:look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor ,
and in the back seat. B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars. C.) Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. (This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then,
it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, Preferably in a zig -zag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic. BE CAREFUL! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked ‘for help’ into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late
and she thought it was weird.. The police told her ‘Whatever you do, DO NOT
open the door..’ The lady then said that it sounded like the baby
had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, ‘We already have a unit on the way,
whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.’ He told her that they think a serial killer
has a baby’s cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby.. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby’s cries outside their doors when they’re home alone at night.
10. Water scam! If you wake up in the middle of the night to hear all your taps outside running or what you think is a burst pipe, DO NOT GO OUT TO INVESTIGATE! These people turn on all your outside taps full blast so that you will go out to investigate and then attack.

Prevention is the best cure.

Some other tips are to just try to stay up to date with your local sheriff/police department’s bulletins, you can do this through Facebook and Instagram or via your local newspaper. They often post about the latest threats and also about new tactics (like the baby crying recording) that criminals and attackers are using. This knowledge helps you to keep a finger on the pulse of the potential threats in your area.

Okay, so even the most innocent and cautious people get attacked. How can we prepare for defending ourselves? At this point I am in no way certified nor do I have any authority to teach self defense so I’m really not going to even try. You need to take a class.fight It’s as simple as that. Martial arts classes are fine, but honestly, most of that stuff is just show. You need to invest in a really good, quality self defense course. And then PRACTICE what you learn! The things you learn should become knee-jerk reaction to you, because you’ve practiced them so much. Now I don’t suggest you use your brother or husband or significant other to practice on, since you probably don’t want to seriously hurt them.

Youtube is great for some basic things to practice until you can get a real course. The thing about attending an actual course, though is that you get the personal training. You can do stuff and get corrected and once you’ve got technique down, you have a secure platform to improve on.

Punching and kickboxing bags are your best friends. punching-bagMost gyms have them and you can usually get access to one at the YMCA or other athletic places of similar nature. Or even buy one for your home, if you have the space. They also double as a great way to vent stress and anger and other emotions. 😉

 

 

Personally, it’s a little awkward to let someone get into your personal space the way an instructor will have to in order to teach you properly. It’s okay to feel like this, it’s even a very good thing if you feel this way! It means you are conscious of your ‘bubble’.

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Measurements are approximate and flexible.

When that bubble is violated, you should have warning flags popping up in your mind and your body should immediately start getting defensive. This is the natural hard-wired defense system that you were created with and it serves to protect you in a dangerous situation. Let the instructor train you to best use this system and you are well on your way to being prepared for an attack. On the other hand, in the culture we live in it is easy for us to dull our defenses because the fight or flight warnings seem silly or impractical to us. This is okay and very usual as well, but you really should start working on not shutting off those alerts and instead processing them deliberately before proceeding. Someday, (hopefully never) you may need them when it counts most.

Check out this video (I know they’re guys but watch how low the ‘victim’ guy’s bubble sensitivity is! He wasn’t defensive at all even in a noticeably threatening situation.) This is not good. Being safe is much better than being sorry/dead.

And lastly, THIS.

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Be safe. Be alert. Train hard. Live well.

Self Defense – Without a Gun (Part 1)

One of our loyal followers, Miss Abigail Grace, mentioned that I might write an article focused on resources for defending oneself without a gun. So here we go, better late then never!

There are many times that we can’t have a personal firearm with us. They are illegal to carry in some workplaces, or you may be under-aged, or you just can’t wear one with a certain outfit, etc., etc., etc.

shadow.jpgI think we can all agree that it’s a dangerous world out there and we ladies are certainly not exempt from the threats that lurk about. However, instead of being cowering sheep, we must stand up and resist the stalking fears that so easily beset us and instead make a decision, right here, right now (and I actually mean right now as you read this) that you are going to be a fighter. That no matter what the evil the world throws at you, at the end of the day, you’re going home to those that love you.never give up.jpg The battle is won or lost long before you fight it. It’s a mindset and anyone who has fought off an assailant will tell you that. You don’t have to have a masculine or super suspicious attitude. You can be a normal, beautiful woman. But in your mind, deep down, you have to resolved that giving up is not an option. You may get hurt, you may even die, but by golly, the scum bag is going down with you. And this goes for whether you are armed with a firearm or not.

 

Now that we have that out of the way… 🙂

Okay so “non-lethal” weapons include, but are not limited to: pepper and mace sprays, stun guns, tasers, and stabbing devices (including knives, tactical pens, kubotans, brass knuckles, etc).

So to be perfectly honest, I’ve only ever carried a knife, so I really can’t tell you how to use the rest of these based on personal experience. However, while I was at the gun show, I made it a point to talk to some of the ladies who were selling various brands of tasers and non-lethal weapons.

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This is the knife I carry. Impressive, huh? My dad’s special birthday present to me, several years ago. Never mess with a little woman carrying a big knife.

One lady was especially knowledgeable. She has been selling, carrying, and teaching self-defense with stun guns and automatic knives for over 20 years. She said that stun guns were one of the best non-lethal weapons to carry for several different reasons: First, they make a noise that will make the hair stand up on the back of your neck. Literally. It is so loud and unmistakable. She suggests that if you ever feel threatened or you are alone in the dark see someone that seems to be acting suspiciously, you can just zap it a few times pink-stungunand it lets everyone nearby know that you have a stun gun and only an idiot would attack after that. It will also attract the attention of people that could come to your aid. Most stun guns also come with flashlights which means they are handy in the dark, and since the dark seems to be the most opportune times to plan an attack…they are there, ready when you need them!

So some things to know when you are considering a stun gun as your weapon of choice: The best usually produce no more than 1,000,000 volts, no matter how they’re advertised. They only should be charged up once every 3-4 months. More than that will harm the battery. A taser will not kill someone, it may not even take them down completely on the first jab. Brief contact will make an attacker let go, longer contact will bring them on their knees (aka better immobilize them) we’ll talk about this more a little further down. The electricity from the stunning won’t hurt you (the person holding the stun gun). They work best on minimal clothing, so aim for a place where the skin is showing -like the neck, hands, anywhere where the skin is exposed. Don’t be afraid to be ruthless. Go for the face! The chest and up, and the groin area will give you the most get-away time.hand-held-stun-guns-300x228

What does it do? Stunning a person for 1-2 seconds result in a dazed mental situation. 3 seconds will cause loss of muscle control and bodily functions (yeah, it’s gonna be a mess), loss of balance, and disorientation. It basically throws their equilibrium off. The person will experience burning sensations, pain, and be pretty shaky.

Warning: This doesn’t work every time, on every person. Drugs and sometimes alcohol can negate the effects of a stun gun, at least in part. At this point, prayer becomes essential. 🙂

Different kinds of stun guns: Damsel in Defense is a great company that sells weapons specifically tailored for women. I don’t have a ton of experience with their products but their stun guns have a unique feature of a wrist lanyard that is attached to a pin that will disconnect the electrical circuit so if the attacker wrestles the stun gun from you, he can’t use it against you. They also come in awesome colors.stun guns.jpg

There are also ‘stun gun’ flashlights, which are made by a variety of different manufacturers. These are handy if you have smaller hands, as they seem to generally be a bit slimmer and also better to get a good grip on. And they’re also a flashlight! Like, how awesome is that!? Great to keep in the car or by the front door. stungun

Knives: Okay, so knives are a world unto themselves. Just like guns, everyone has a preference and thinks that theirs are best. I will say that as far as knives go, you get what you pay for. Cheap knives are just that. Cheap. Knives do break. And the wrong knife can give out when you need it most. One knife that I like the best is the Benchmade Infidelinfidel or Stiletto knife (and talk about cool names, I dig the stiletto!!! No pun intended.) They’re pricey, but get this! They’re automatic! Like, you push a button and this wicked blade shoots out and BAM you’re ready to go! stilettoYeah, I guess they can be dangerous if not handled properly, but seriously, they are so handy and cool! Anyhow. Some great name brands (recommendations gratis my dad) are: Benchmade, CRKT (pronounced cricket), Sog, Piranha, Spyderco and Gerber, and some Buck knives, not necessarily in that order. Like anything, you need to find what works for you. Try some knives out. Maybe take a class on knife self-defense, if that’s what you’re set on carrying. Get comfortable with it. There is certainly an art to knife fighting and it takes practice. But practice is what counts when time is of the essence.

Lastly are non-bladed stabbing devices. So there are a multitude of them, some are really creative, some are practical, some are specialty and some are things that are lying around your house. So to be perfectly honest, dull stabbing implements take a hardcore person to use them. You’ve got to be strong, determined, not easily made queasy, and have the ability to become ruthless. kubaton-pic

Why? They’re dull. This means two things, first, you have to have way more force behind the thrust then you would normally have to have with a sharp stabbing object. Also, it’s going to be messy. I personally shudder at the thought of ever having to use blunt instruments for self-defense. You have to have nerves of steel and a heart of ice. It’s just gory. If you can use a blade, a stun gun or a handgun, do. It’s just better.

That aside, we all know that at some points we are not armed and if an attack happens during this time, the best thing to do is to use nearby objects as weapons. For some of you, this may be a new idea, so I will explain. Take a moment to look up from reading this and look around you. If you were attacked right now, what sort of objects near you could you use to defend yourself? Some common household items that make good weapons include silverware, vases, figurines, pens, keys, even things like clothes hangers and drinking glasses. It’s a good practice to glance around and familiarize yourself with these sorts of items every time you enter a room. Habits like this that you can develop will be what you fall back on in a case of emergency. Many quality self-defense courses will teach you more about utilizing your surroundings  and the particulars of using improvised weapons. I think every woman needs to take a basic self defense course once in her life. Let me re-emphasis that. EVERY woman needs to take at least one self defense course in her life. It’s just common sense. Do you go out by yourself? Do you ever pump gas at night? Do you shop at Walmart? Take walks in the evening? forget to lock your doors? Drive through bad neighborhoods? Basically, my point is, if you in any way expose yourself to potential threats, you should also prepare yourself to face those situations, should they arise.

I highly recommend (and I know I keep recommending this book, but it’s seriously the best) ‘Principles of Personal Defense’ by Jeff Cooper. Literally, an essential book to have on hand (no pun intended, but if you got it, congratulations). Regardless of what you carry or don’t carry, these principles apply to all aspects of self defense.

I hope this was helpful. I’m looking to do some basic self defense youtube videos VERY soon!!! I think actual videos will be more helpful than my long blog posts. 🙂 Let me know what you think, and what you want to see posts on, in the future.

Love!

 

On Target

Call me sentimental, or maybe reflective, but I thought this would be a fitting title to a fitting subject for an end-of-the-year article.

As each year comes to a close, we tend to look back, re-evaluate, regroup and then project a new goal, a new vision, for the future. success4As I was thinking about this, I couldn’t help noticing how perfectly target practice related to and coincided with New Year’s Resolutions. You have a projected target, it’s clear, visible, and seems quite attainable. You set your sights and take aim. And just as it is with resolutions and goals, we don’t always hit the mark. But instead of getting discouraged and giving up, we stop, pause for a moment of reflection and study where, how and when we went wrong. Then we try again.

Without diligence, we admit defeat. We win in the moments when we just can’t do it anymore, when we feel like giving up, and yet we keep going. success2Just like with athletics or anything else. You don’t win when you’re confronted with an opponent, you win when you pushed ahead back on that dusty range when your hands hurt and you just weren’t hitting the mark. If you put you head down, take a breath, and try again now, you’ll win, later. It’s giving it your all, even when it feels like you’re not going anywhere. It’s the same way with life. It’s those days when you have trouble getting out of bed and doing the next thing, and yet you still do it and give it all you got, that you reach your goals. The successes are built on the backs of the hard times.

Point two, is the target itself. It is important that our targets are well defined so we can know where we are aiming. The best targets I’ve seen are neon colored. They are clear and bold, and most importantly, it’s easy to see where you’ve hit them. This makes them rewarding to practice with because you can see your progress. As we get more surgical in our shooting, they have upgraded targets that have the major organs outlined on them, so an individual can aim for certain points and practice fine tuning her placement. They also let you know what sort of damage you are doing. This also coordinates with making goals in life. Don’t make generalized goals. Set up clear, outlined, and attainable goals that you can knock out on the way to reaching the bulls eye. It is easy to get discouraged when we can’t see the progress in our striving. As time goes by and you begin to accomplish your goals, make bigger, more detailed ones that have greater and greater impacts. It all adds up. Small personal goals, just like plinking at the range, slowly grows to more focused training and goal setting. Gradually work up. The habits we build now, will be what we fall back on in time of need.

Something else to think about is stance. What sort of platform or foundation are we working from? Are we standing firm? This is a little hard to communicate, so bear with me. When you are practicing at a range, you need to have a secure foundation. As you progress through training, and start getting more advanced, you will find that you no longer are shooting from a literal secure platform, but yet, no matter what position you are shooting from, you will be able to make you platform secure. For example: When I started my first tactical class, I was starting with a clean slate. I’d never done any shooting or practicing before. For the first couple hours, I was practicing securing my platform. I was being trained in the habit of having a tight hold on my gun, keeping my balance, being in control of my body and my weapon. As we progressed to shooting on the move, shooting from the ground, etc. I found that since I had started with a secure foundation, and formed it into a habit, I could now take control of my situation, whether I was moving or on my back, or two inches from my target, I could find and literally make, a secure ‘launching pad’ so to speak, for my action. I find that often, we make grand plans for the year, and yet, we seem to loose our balance as we launch into the new year. We aren’t focusing on where we are now, and the steps to get to our goal, in addition to the goal itself. We just run full boar towards the objective and then we aren’t prepared when life hits us upside the head and sends us into a tail spin. Then from one tail spin to another until we wind up at the end of the year, dazed and wondering what happened. Yet we don’t learn from our mistakes  and instead launch into the next year, exactly the same. What we need to do is look at the here and now. Settle your differences. Surrender the past to the past. Wipe clean the slate. Don’t drag last year’s baggage into the fresh year. Start from the ground up. I think the hardest thing for me, is to forgive myself for messing up, and then to accept the apologies that I never received from others. This gives you peace to start again. Once these things become a habit, you can apply them ‘on the move’ as you work towards higher goals. Aim small, miss small. Launch from a sturdy platform.

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To close, don’t get discouraged by seemingly insignificant goals. Keep your chin up and realize that even the greatest marksmen and women, the most successful people, started at ground level. There is no shame in starting small. Second, prepare for the unexpected. This goes for target practice and life. You can never know exactly what your opponent will do, but you can prepare to beat him(or her) be anticipating the unexpected and being ready to counter it. Life will hit you out of nowhere. Always prepare for the worst case scenario. Stand firm, but be flexible. Don’t forget to carry extra ammo.

May your every bullet hit its mark and may you accomplish your dreams.

Happy New Years!!!

Firearms Fashions Part 2

I’m calling part 2 the Concealed Carry Edition.

Basically I’m just going to look at some really cute ways to layer your clothes and miss-match outfits so you can carry in an attractive way and look cute.

This outfit is pretty perfect. It’s stylish and cute. It has a very festive flair and it provides two different methods of concealment. christmasFirst, THAT SWEATER!!! Golly, you could hide a freaking Uzi under that thing. Longish, slightly bulky or very flowy sweaters like this are a must-have staple for the weaponed woman. With this sweater you could easily carry in your waistband at 4:00 position (in the lower back). I wouldn’t carry appendix, since it’s a bit too open for that.

Next, That skirt is really awesome. It’s short, so a pair of concealed carry shorts or a thigh holster would be fabulously paired with it. And the shorts would keep you a bit warmer, too! in black, they blend right in with the tights (put them over the tights) . The skirt has some flair so you could easily lift it up to get to your gun. Only problem is it’s almost too short, a little puff of wind and it could fly up expose your firearm. I would suggest Dene Adams’ shaping thigh holster leggings and shorts. Their corsets are another option that we’ll discuss further down. They have some great stuff, check them out! The other option is The Well Armed Woman’s shorts that have a holster/carry pocket strategically placed in the lower back. You will need a slightly different waist band to accommodate access to it, though.

_mg_0397This outfit is good with a shoulder holster (jean hides printing amazingly well) or even wearing the jacket right over a concealed carry tank top or shirt. The jacket can be partially buttoned or left open for easier access. You can tuck the shirt in and pair it with jeans or a jean skirt for a shoulder holster (needs belt loops to secure). The scarf also helps to distract and draw attention to your face.

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Isn’t she cute!? Knotting a cute (preferably slightly over-sized) button up over a skirt or jeans in a marvelous way to distract from an appendix carry, or deep concealment shoulder carry. It is a bit hard to navigate if you need to pull your gun, but if you’d just like to have it on you this is a good way to conceal it. The folds of the fabric camouflage any printing while simultaneously slimming your waist and accentuating your curves.

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JEANS!!!! I’m pretty sure we all love jeans. So here are a couple of ways to use them to your advantage. Flared jeans – these are your best friend. Ankle holsters are easily concealed under them and slip into a pair of short boots and you’re good to go! We all know that the craze the past few years have been ‘skinny’ jeans. Well, guess what!? They are handy too! Skinny jeans help balance a flowy or bulky top if you are concealing on your torso, and if you want to ankle carry, you can always tuck them into some slouchy boots (mid calf, or a bit shorter, preferably) and carry that way. The waistband on a pair of jeans is ideal for carrying in(or on)-the-waistband, as most jeans have the necessary belt loops, and stiffness to hold up the holster. I would suggest staying away from skin-tight jeans (unless you are ankle carrying in your boot) because they print very obviously and the holster rubbing against thin, tight jean can make them wear through easily. I suggest a slightly heartier jean with a bit of breathing room (like what I’m wearing in the picture above) so you can carry comfortably.skinny-jeans

Bra holsters. So bra holsters are a little controversial, but for those that are a bit more well-endowed, this might be a good option. It generally offers a very quick draw although it is slightly awkward to lift up your shirt if you need to pull your gun, if you are fine with that then good for you! If you’re looking for a good bra holster, I would suggest Flashbang Holsters, if for no other reason, simply because they are super nice, personable and willing to work with their customers. Their holsters seem to have amazing reviews saying that the products are comfortable, easily concealed (it really depends on your bust size and the size of the gun you carry), and easy to draw from. They are made from kydex, so they aren’t going to be super soft, but they are safe and you don’t have to worry about your gun dropping out from under your shirt (because that would be ridiculously embarrassing). I would suggest trying one out, if you feel comfortable with that option and see how it works for you! I think the biggest benefit to carrying in your bra is that if you have little kids (and I’m not talking about nursing, here. Do NOT bra carry if you’re nursing) they can’t get to it. If it’s on your hip, or in your appendix or lower back it might be easier for little fingers to find it or for children to get hurt by it (picking them up and they scrape their knee or bonk their head on it). Another note is that scarves are not only warm but also help hide any bulging or printing you may get from a bra holster.

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Okay so I’m going to finish with a little section on concealed carry corsets. A lot of women’s holster companies make these and they vary in size, style and even in name. Some call them a belly band, others call them corsets. Some are stiff and function as a literal corset and others are more of a spandex and stress comfort and sleek lines. It really just depends on what you are looking for and what feels comfortable on you. Dene Adams and Can Can have a few models of corset , as does The Well Armed Woman. It’s sort of up to you, as far as what you are looking for, concerning these. They all seem well made and functional. Some are fancier than others. It’s up to you. One thing to note is that these might not be the best fit if you have a short waist because they are sort of stiff and wide.

I haven’t covered every style of concealed carry options for women, there is no way I could ever do that in one post, but I think I’ve touched on all the main types. You should definitely do some research though and even ask your girlfriends! It may surprise you how many carry and what their suggestions would be.

messy-closetTo sum up, the weaponed woman should keep the following staples in her closet to help her conceal in a fashionable way: Long, flowy or bulky sweaters, short(ish) skirts with a bit of fullness to them, flowy shirts, jean jackets, skinny jeans and wide topped boots, Flared jeans and ankle boots, scarves, maybe a slightly larger-than-your-normal-size button up, and of course, your concealed carry holster.

I hope this helps, let me know if I missed anything or if you have any questions or suggestions.

Thank you all and wishing you all a very Merry Christmas!

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Firearms Fashions Part 1

Fashions in the gun world are always tricky. It seems like everyone judges everyone else on what they wear (or don’t wear). Either everyone loves it or they hate it. Fashions are actually super important (though no one would ever admit this). It really depends on the facet that you are entering.

If you are going into the tactical genre, then cool t-shirts and cargo pants are pretty much ‘it’. The more awesome the t-shirt, the better. And the t-shirt has to generally be ‘for’ something. The ones I see most frequently support police, firefighters, the troops, a specific branch, battalion, or are some sick design whose proceeds go to support KIA/MIA families. Cargo pants seem to be the norm because they are really handy, because, I mean, POCKETS! Colors are usually neutrals/military colors. Jeans are okay as well, just a bit less common. Nothing fancy. Shoes are usually some type of boot or covered -toe sandal.

With hunting, you’re going to want to go for camo. It seems to me that when in doubt, camo from head to toe is the best choice. Also, by watching most of the guys and gals around here, all camo matches……Yeah I’m just going to leave that at that. Also, water proof boots are always a good choice because cold wet feet are unhealthy. Dress warm…And don’t forget to wear some orange (or at least some pink).

**Little known tip that most people would laugh at, here: You know those lace leggings or fish net hose that we ladies keep tucked in the back of our closets? Well those are amazing as a next-to-the-skin warming layer! It’s funny, but really true. The coarseness rubs in between the skin and top layers of clothes and warms your skin and causes a heat friction. So if I’m going out in ridiculously cold temperatures, I’m going to put on my pair of hideous lavender-colored, stretchy, lace leggings, a thin pair of socks, then some slightly thicker fabric leggings, a pair of wool socks, then my long john shirt and a pair of jeans, or hunting overalls, or cargo pants, a long sleeved t-shirt (make sure it’s long waisted and you can tuck it into your leggings and pants) and then a sweater or two, depending on the temperatures. Finally I’ll finish with a coat or heavy hoodie (camo, of course) and my heavy leather hiking boots. This sort of suiting up is good for 30-10 degrees Fahrenheit. If it’s warmer, ditch the second pair of leggings and cut back on the sweaters. If it’s colder, make sure you have hand warmers and maybe more socks and sweaters. If it’s colder than 10 degrees, though, there probably aren’t going to be many deer out. They bed down when it gets that cold.**

Cowgirl/wild west: Well, I think we all know what this means: Jeans and button ups. Cowgirl hat and boots are not optional. If you have Pinterest, you can easily look these up and get more ideas. Just make sure you don’t look like you stepped out of a catalog or you may get some ridicule. And that handy hint goes for all areas of life.

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On the Range: So range clothes are a little different. Usually they are a mix of the genres but you’ll also find a lot of sportsman’s guide/Cabela’s etc. range wear. A lot of them are really clever and handy, like padded shoulders so you don’t get bruising from the butt of your gun, and/or they have handy pockets and stuff. In my opinion a lot of it is unnecessary and over priced, but I mean, if it makes it more enjoyable for you, then by all means wear it!

The list goes on and on. Pinterest has some really great ideas for all-purpose shooting outfits just make sure that your main focus isn’t just glamour and looking right. It needs to also be practical for you. Don’t wear those adorbs pants that flatter your curves, if you’re going to a tactical course. With all the action involved, it isn’t going to be pretty if you split the crotch or get constant wedgies. I cannot leave this section without elaborating for a moment on low cut shirts. LADIES. PLEASE. Leave the low cut hooter’s shirt at home. Yes, I know that it’s cute, just the right color and makes you look beautiful. But I’m just going to say right now, on a live range, with your scalding hot shells flying (in addition to those of the people next to you), if one of those flying pieces of hell lands in your cleavage, baby, you’re going to really wish you hadn’t worn that shirt.*

Trust me, I wore a regular old fashioned t-shirt to a pistol course and I still managed to have burn marks from hot shells on my back, arms and even two on my chest from ones that slipped down my shirt and anyway. Now don’t get scared, just cover up.  Long sleeves, if it’s not too hot, higher necklines, keep your shirt tucked in, or out, but covering your pant’s waistline. You can even get a military shemaghs which is basically a scarf that you wrap around your neck to protect it from hot shells, the sun and (the real use for it) the sand, out in the deserts of the middle east. 078Take shooting seriously and you will be taken seriously. I’m not saying don’t be feminine, I believe in looking like a woman and we all know that we want to be attractive. Just don’t compromise your safety and seriousness for glamour. Women’s cargo pants can be attractive, or maybe a relaxed pair of jeans, a nice t-shirt and some comfortable shoes. I usually put on a little extra makeup and also wear a pair of sensible earrings (cute studs, small hoops, or short dangles. Nothing expensive, because it might get lost on the range). I would also STRONGLY suggest you leave all rings, except wedding bands, at home. I sometimes paint my fingernails, but nails tend to get chipped and broken on the range. 066Get your self a pair of shooting gloves, probably with the fingers exposed, since what you’re going to really want protected are your palms and the web between your thumb and pointer finger. This was just a few hours in, but by the end of the first day at Tactical Response, my hands were bruised and bleeding and we were using duct tape as a buffer. Not fun. Be prepared.

Also: Sunscreen. Okay, so it was my first time training, and I didn’t know what to expect. I’m big into roasting in the sun to get a tan and I was convinced that I was going to get a savage tan during this August session on the range.

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My dad said to wear sunscreen, but I didn’t want to pass up this opportunity. So we settled on ‘bring it in the truck, just in case’. I put a tiny dab on the tips of my ears and the bridge of my nose to pacify dad before going in to the classroom for two hours.When we got to the range, it was hot, but the training was intense and I was struggling to maintain sanity, so I didn’t  think much about the sun. At the end of the day, I felt very proud of myself. I looked at my arms and face in the car mirror and didn’t look red at all, just a nice brown. But we stopped on the way home so I could use the restroom, and my mouth literally fell open in surprise when I saw my reflection in the mirror. I looked like a crab!!!!! And boy did it hurt all that night. The next morning I slathered myself in sunscreen so I could finish out the course but I’ll tell you what, by the end of the weekend I was burnt to a crisp, regardless, and peeling by the end of the next week. It isn’t worth it. Put sunscreen on. You’ll still get a tan and it might spare you some pain and peeling (yuck!).

I’m going to finish up with indoor gun events. As I said in my previous post, it wasn’t the best idea to wear business pants, a sweater and flats. Most of the women there were VERY casual. There were a lot of old ladies showing off a lot of cleavage (why even!?) and there were a lot of hoodies/sweatshirts and old jeans. I don’t think I’ll ever purposely fit myself into either of those categories, but next time I go, I’ll probably wear my dark wash jeans and a more casual top. I’ll probably also go for some tall boots (without heels) and some cushy socks. Comfortable footwear is essential to survival at these things, folks. Oh, and something I forgot to mention in my last post about gun shows: seating is simply non-existent. Like, most of the vendors bring their own chairs and some of them obviously forgot them. At least at the gun shows I’ve been to, there is no seating. You come, you walk, and you go home. So be comfortable. 🙂 regular-clothes

Okay, I see that I’m going to need a part 2, so I will work on that in short order. Thank you all so much for bearing with me. I know I’m not getting these out as fast as I should. The holidays and life in general tend to throw a wrench in the works.

Much love to you all and I hope you’re having an amazing holiday season!!!

 

*Disclaimer: When dressing, it is my firm belief that a woman should take into consideration what her intent is and how she would like to portray herself. People will treat you according to how you present yourself. Dress like a lady, and you will be treated as such. This is especially important in the gun world.

Slight rain check

I’m going to have to take a rain check this week, folks. Life has picked up to neck-break speed and I just don’t have time to write, right now. I’ll get the promised post out ASAP, although I’m currently not sure when that will be. Possibly tomorrow or maybe Sunday.

Thank you so much for your patience and understanding.

Much love to you all! ❤

Today’s adventure!

Wooooow. Y’all need to go to a gun show sometime.  It’s quite the experience and if you love people, trust me, you’re going to LOVE this. I’d say that a good 90% of the general populace, at least in the Bill Goodman gun show in Nashville, is male. Still, there were more women there than I expected and it was really fascinating to observe all the different kinds of people milling about. We were there for about 4 hours, which is a lot, but the time flies by fast, so you don’t notice really. img_4436

So I did wind up wearing my business pants, red sweater and brown flats. I think that was definitely not the best idea, so I’ll write a post soon about dressing for gun events! Live and learn. img_4429

Apparently my little brother is suffering from the effects of too much caffeine and also over excitement……

The day totally started off the right way with dad, my little bro and myself going to  Cracker Barrel for an amazing breakfast. Then we got on the road again finally got to the show around 10:00am. We got our tickets and headed to the door to get our hands stamped and the guy there was real flirtatious which irked me.IMG_4431.JPG But it’s something you just have to get used to in the gun world. It just gets worse the deeper you venture.

So at first, walking into a gun show is like sensory overload. It takes about 15-20 min to get your bearings (during which time my dad was dragging us along like a kid in a candy shop.) I stopped and talked to a lady selling massive paper targets with her husband. They were very interesting and they inspired me to do a review on targets soon. We meandered around and looked at stuff. There was SO much there. Guns! Knives! Cheap Chinese crap!

 

Literally though, every genre of weapon and weapon accessories. There is something for everybody. Be you gun addict, gangster, cowboy, hippie, biker dude/chick, hunter, collector, competition shooter, or into self-defense,  you’ll find your flavor in amongst the multitude of tables and booths.

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So there are 4 basic types of people at a gun show: The professional arms dealers, the ‘Walkers’, the sellers of cheap merchandise, and the regulars/buyers.

The Professionals: These are the people that own actual brick and mortar gun shops, have FFLs and do thorough background checks. img_4432They generally sell new or slightly used guns and their setup is always professional and expensive looking. They also usually have business cards, matching t-shirts and know their stuff. If you are looking to buy new, and want some professional help, these are the people to talk to. Just be careful, they might try to sell you something over priced if they think they can pull it off. Know basically what you’re looking for and how much you’re wanting to spend before going to them.

I didn’t get a picture of the really professional, nice booths, but this is a smaller operation, but same basic point.

‘Walkers’: These are people that walk around with guns on their shoulders or they may have a table because they brought more than they can carry. The guns are going to almost certainly be used but there is a good chance of getting a good deal. img_4433Also, the owner is the one selling the gun *cue the handy hint* since no man really wants to sell a gun, it’s likely that he’s needing the money and you can probably talk him down a little on the price. They might not know a ton about guns in general, but chances are, they know their gun, so they can tell you some handy hints about it. Just exercise caution, I mean, they are trying to sell a gun, so there is a chance they’ll make things up. Bring someone along who knows their stuff and can tell if they’re lying or not.

 

 

 

The sellers of cheap merchandise: Okay so watch out for these people! They generally have flashy stuff that looks oh-so-cool and really bad to the bone. img_4435Some of the better junk even mimics the real deal, but it’s junk. How to tell? The brand, and the price. They generally aren’t selling guns. Instead they tend to capitalize on accessories and knives. Basically, just steer clear of the flashy stuff unless you’re looking for something in particular or are shopping for Christmas presents for some young male relations. Lol

The Regular/Buyer: These are the people that travel around to gun shows, the regulars (the old men that come to talk and catch up and poke around in the dusty piles for spare parts), and the people like you and me who are coming to check stuff out and are looking to buy (i.e. have money to spend).

So all these people mill around for hours, bumping into each other, saying hi and hi again, and it’s really wonderful. I got to meet some cool ladies and learned a lot from them on various topics. I’ll be doing some really awesome info posts soon with that info. img_4440

Oh! And sometimes gun shows have knife sharpening which is very convenient, so you may want to bring your dull knife (knives) along.

In case you’re wondering, gun shows are really very safe because no loaded guns are allowed and everyone there is pretty sharp on keeping the ammo separate from the mags and guns because no one is into getting hurt. DO NOT BRING A LOADED GUN INTO THE SHOW. They will check everything at the counter when you come in, anyways, but seriously, there are dire consequences if you get caught with a loaded gun. The laws in different states are all different, so I’d get familiar with your state’s laws or go with someone who goes to shows frequently and knows the groove…so to speak.

Literally folks, if this post is incoherent it’s because I’m dead tired and I ache all over and I want to sleeeeeeep. So FYI I’ll probably wind up editing this a bunch later on. img_4451

My scribbled notes from the ride home.

It was over all, an amazing day and I can’t wait to write more about it soon!

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