There something I’d like to share that I’ve been thinking about in light of some recent events.

Why do we learn self-defense? Why do we carry guns and/or knives, and/or stunguns, etc.? Why do we train?

For confidence.

When a person has the capability to defend themselves from personal harm, they exudefallon a confidence that criminals can sense. It’s the I-am-not-a-victim mentality. It is not guaranteed to keep you safe, but it is a BIG deterrent. They have actually filmed pedestrians on a street and showed it to interned criminals and had them select potential victims. Most selected the same people. People that were not aware of their surroundings, looked lost in their own world, looked weak and incapable, unsure.
fallon2However there was one very nice looking woman that was shown to each inmate and yet they never chose her. When asked why, the criminals  simply said that there was something about her, they wouldn’t want to tangle with her. She looked confident and alert. In real life she was a part time security guard and always carried concealed. You couldn’t tell, but she had that sharp, alert confidence about her and the inmates could sense it.



So all this to say, even if you aren’t to the point of carrying a firearm yet, walk with confidence, if you have trouble with this, you should start training until you get to the point where you are confident, whether it is with a weapon, or using your own body. Be alert. Walk purposefully. Don’t be afraid to make eye contact with shady people. Be observant. confident.png

Aka, don’t go out without it. (I know, I know, we don’t always wear makeup when we go out, but just go with it. It sounds good. Lol)

A young girl got kidnapped very close to the city where I live, just a few weeks ago, and they still haven’t found her, as of yet. As I ponder this incident and many others that seem to be occurring more and more frequently, I have found myself seeking for a common thread, a clue to the victims, and more importantly, how to help potential victims before it’s too late. I don’t want to offend anyone, but these victims look like victims. You can see uncertainty in their eyes, in the way they carry themselves. I want to help inspire confidence in these women and girls. You are beautiful. You are important. You have a right to happiness and confidence. So throw your chest out and stride with purpose. You have a right to be alive, unharmed and walk down the street without fear of assault.


Oh, and just one last thing, SmartCross3unchain yourself from your phone. Please. I’m sure that text can wait till you get somewhere safe.
On the street is not the place to check Facebook and text. Phones lead to so many accidents, so much sorrow. It’s better to wait the extra 1-10 min than to risk a tragedy.